Thursday 17 October 2013

The Smart Way To Win Your Ex Back

By Ryder Dougharty


Are you wondering how to get my ex back but all you can feel is pain and heart break? Thankfully almost all relationships can be saved once you change your approach.Regardless of the reason for your break up, most break ups can be reversed if you can contain the pain you are feeling right now. Almost everyone makes the same mistakes when trying to win their ex back, the result? An ex who no longer wants anything to do with you, ignores your calls and is pushed out of your life forever.
[How To Get Your Ex Back]


Before I start, there are also some other things that you should do like; improving your self-esteem and image by working out and trying to feel better about yourself, you can also bring up to your ex past events that you shared and had fun.Another thing that you should do is to put your focus on yourself. I know that it sounds counterproductive to your cause, but the truth of the matter is that people like it when their partners are confident in themselves. Go out and start putting down an exercising plan. Improve your diet to healthy foods and avoid associating yourself with people who are not like-minded.

Avoid contact with your ex. If they are calling you or you are calling, messaging and emailing them repeatedly you must stop immediately. I know you want to keep your ex in your life and avoid them slipping away forever but this can push him or her away super fast. No one like a desperate and needy ex, your ex is no different.Let emotions settle, this is a crucial component especially if your break up was heated. In this time away from your ex learn why your ex ended the relationship. More often then not the true reasons why a relationship failed can be subtle so be completely honest with yourself.

You must swallow your pride and let go. Avoid thinking about your ex with others. Right now you have nothing to lose but your last chance to get your ex back. Don't ruin that chance to win your ex back.1. Break contact. I'm serious. Reduce or, if possible, break any contact with your ex for about 3 to 4 weeks. This should be easy, right?...Not really. This is going to be the most painful tip because you will, most likely, miss them a lot and never stop wondering about what they are doing. Stop calling them, stop sending them emails, text messages or anything of that nature. One of the biggest mistakes people make after a breakup is what I call text message terrorism. I'm sure you know what this is, but, also, I bet you don't realize that, after a breakup, any text message, email or phone call can be too much for your ex. They already had too much telling you they don't want you anymore. At this point it's best to agree with the breakup and be totally cool about it.

Setting up a meeting to talk with your ex is the best way to sort out the problems the two of you are having as long as you've followed the lessons outlined in the sites below first.If you go in unprepared, or do what most people do, not only will a get-together with your ex not result in you two getting back together, it will probably wind up making things worse.Getting back with your ex isn't rocket science, but you need to make sure you are behaving correctly to make him realize he is better off with you. Acting needy or childish will only push your ex further away, and that's the opposite of what you want to do, right.Just follow the steps and the plan as outlined on the sites below and you'll be all set. Good luck!

I know that some of the things I have said may sound very easy in theory but may turn out to be complex practically. That is why I am here to help you out. Feel free to click the link below and join our program where we hold your hand and give you practical strategies from experiences of those who have done it and succeeded. Sounds fair? Then see you on the other side.I have researched tons and tons of content about how to get an ex-partner back after a serious breakup, and believe me, most of these so-called "tips" are all hokum. These "experts" believe that their advice applies to ALL relationships - that if you do this or not do that, you will be guaranteed a second chance with your girl. I, however, know that the complexity of all relationships does not allow for that - there is no definite set of rules that will get you out of your predicament.

Start working out. When you work out, endorphins are released inside your body, so, you will feel a lot better. It will make you look better too, so you'll get a boost in your confidence. Remember: confidence is one of the most attractive traits you can have (every dating advice I've read - good or bad - included this clich - the power of confidence). But, confidence comes with success while you've just been dumped. It's not going to be easy, but, don't worry too much. I'm going to give you all the tools you need to get success, so confidence will happen automatically.

This is just the most childish "advice" I've heard about relationships. Of course, there are instances where it is inappropriate and forbidden to contact an ex after a breakup, but to NEVER contact them? As in, an eternal ban of communication from your ex-partner? This can't be farther from the truth. What if your ex tries to contact your first? What if it's been over a month since the break up? What if you are both working at the same place and you need to be able to talk to each other? Does this advice still hold?Maybe the more appropriate tip would be "If possible, limit your communication with your ex, and sensibly ask your ex to do the same." And this situation shouldn't go on for more than a month. Trust me, relationship heartaches normally cease three weeks after a breakup. So, I think it's safe to talk to your ex freely and openly after three weeks. But never before that.

Make your next date with your ex emotionally charged. "What?! A date?! My ex doesn't even answer my phone calls!"...I can hear you screaming already. But, it's alright. You will find a solution for every situation in the materials at the bottom of this article. I will teach you how to make your ex return your phone calls and how to get another date. Well, that's actually the easy part.

Now, let me explain what I mean by "emotionally charged". If you're planning to do the old "dinner and movie" I have bad news for you... Why? Because,doing so, you lose on the following sociologically proven principle.This first scenario will not only be boring, but, also, it won't create a bonding, or, in our case, a re-bonding experience. A better scenario could be a short roller coaster ride. Also, taking your ex on a few "mini-dates" could do wonders for your relationship. This creates "time distortion", so, your ex will feel that they've been with you forever after only a short period of time.This way, you will eventually get to spend more time together and you will have a chance to get them back, if you're prepared and you know what to do.




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