Monday, 25 July 2011

How To Be Clear And Direct In Your Communication

By Mark Latham


Do you feel lonely or left alone? If yes, this means you are one of those people who immediately stop communication with their partners as soon as a problem takes place between them.

Whereas people who remain in talking terms with one other even if an issue have arisen between, they feel they are very much together in that bad situation even. This is the impact of good communication style.

People need to be willing to analyze their previous or current talking style. This is necessary for those who believe their way of communication is not very good and is disturbing their relationship. This analysis will let them learn new communication patterns and unlearn the ones that are not suitable.

Communication has two basic components. One is what is said and the other is what is shown non-verbally. The listener will always look for what is actually shown non-verbally when one communicates. The words matter less than the body language specially when there is some discrepancy between the two.

For example when you tell somebody that you like his/her coat but you have sarcastic smile on your face, your smile will be believed more than what you said.

The communication pattern keeps repeating and after some times the couple gets into a habit of communication in that particular style. When stuck in this repeating pattern, the arguments the couples make sound similar.

To smash the habit of the communication that is not useful, one or both of the couple have to make a knowing decision about changing it. By conscious efforts, changing a habitual style of communication becomes possible.

This will allow the couple to get rid of the ineffective communication style. Once so, a good strong relationship will be possible as the couples will be able to clearly convey their meaning to one another and the skills of listening and talking will be effective.




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